Ciri-ciri Lelaki Idaman
Rase macam nak lempang diri sendiri bila baca topik kita pada hari ini hahaha. Sebab I've already told my parents, family and close friends that I don't wanna get married. I totally reject when people ask me "Bila nak kahwin?" and that sort. I thought I was being realistic. Am still not enough money for kenduri kahwin what more to start a new life, not enough knowledge on marriage life, and the thought of delivering a baby scares the hell out of me. All these reasons are actually solid reasons on why I shouldn't get married at the moment, but who knows, in the future, I can solve this problems right ? Today I officially told Allah that whether I'm destined to get married or not, I will make myself prepare for it. Subhanallah and that instant, I feel so lapang, calm, and relaxed after making that confession to Allah. No more crying to Allah like "Allah I don't wanna get married but why do I always have this thought". Like I finally let go of my 'in denial' phase and accept the fact that as a normal human being, I do wanna get married. But like I said, I'll just prepare for it, whether marriage is for me or not, I let Allah decide. He knows best. So, first step, to list down my ciri-ciri idaman lelaki wahaha. Orang kata jangan sibuk nak cari lelaki idaman, you should prepare how to be a good wife first. Haha. But as I list down my personal perferences on how my man should be like, I see myself wanting to be that person jugak. It's like, in a way, while searching for that person, I'm also encouraged to become one too. Ha gitu. When I google the ciri-ciri, most of the articles list down the general traits like bertanggungjawab, romantik, baik, and sorts. But my list, is more, specific ? Of course if people were to ask me only 3 ciri-ciri I would saya kaya, handsome dan beriman. But, I feel like this list can narrow it down to a more specific traits/personalities that I like. Wah, rasa macam sesi mengenali diri sendiri pun ye jugak haha. Dengan lafaz Bismillah, here goes..
1. Has a soothing voice
Ok firstly, the list is not in particular order, but only number 1 is my top preference. Of course muka is the first thing we will judge right, tapi the voice, aaa kalau suara dia hensem aku cair wei. Tapi serious la susah nak explain soothing voice tu macam mana. Ok one name crossed my mind. Kalau korang kenal Youtuber PrinceMeed, ( I don't follow him sebab videos dia more than 30 mins), haa suara dia hensem. And most Korean actors punya suara pun handsome jugak. Bukan garau tau, tapi entahla. Deep but not too deep macam Mr. Bean? Haha. Oh and yaa hahaha Uncle K (my psychologist) punya suara soothing gilaaa. Boleh bayangkan tak, aku selalu tak ingat apa benda dia cakap but I can listen to his voice all day do. Haha geli pulak sebab Uncle K is the same age as abah wahaha.
2. Height more than 175 cm.
I once asked my little bro (Faris) what's his ciri-ciri abang ipar and he only gave me one :-Someone who is taller than him. And do you know what his height is ? 178cm! Hahaha. I found it almost impossible to find a man that tall sebab Malaysian men mostly not that tall huhu. I'm 167cm and considered as one of the tall women in Malaysia. Hence, :D
3. Food lover and health conscious at the same time.
Because I can talk about food and diet all my life.
4. Loves her mom more than he loves me.
But not to an extend he would abandon me lah. I want him to call her mom at least once a day because although he is my husband, his syurga is still bawah telapak kaki his mom.
5. Pandai ambil hati orang tua
Specifically my parents lah. I hope he can love them as much as I do.
6. Love cats.
Because I've been living with cats with all my life and I hope to have at least 2 cats in my house when I got married too.
7. Can be my imam solat.
At least during Maghrib every day. But I secretly want him to be my imam Solat Subuh hehe mampu ke awak?:p
8. Has memorized the Quran
Or at least someone who is currently memorizing the Quran. This would be a bonus lah cuz I myself am on this journey and it would be nice to have a spouse who is on the same journey too
9. Good listener
To me this is a general trait. Hard to describe this but you will know when you talk to that person
10. Gaji 10k/month
Okays, so, for this one, is actually my abah punya ciri-ciri menantu. He specifically mentioned RM10k per month but I'm not sure whether he's joking (but looks like he's not). Haha.
11. Loves to hug.
Because I loveee hugging. Actually my family is not a hugger. I started liking to hug when my friends do it everyday when we see each other back in school. And I love it since.
12. Pandai main piano
Ni sajeje sebab I'm currently rekindling my love for piano and I think I found my melody. Wah gitu.
13. Willing to dance with me.
Selalu berangan sebenarnya ada dance partner walaupun aku sendiri tak pandai menari.
14. Loves to learn foreign languages
Kalau specific, preferably Japanese sebab I'm learning that, but if he speaks French well, j'adore too.
15. Not a fussy eater.
I hope him to be a flexible eater. Someone who can eat homecooked food, makan kat warung, restoran, senang cite, tak kesah kat mana2. Ada tau orang yang tak nak makan luar langsung.Hari-hari kene masak. Pastu ada jugak yang wajib makan nasi ayam hari2. I don't think I can live with that..sorry.
16. Generous
This is also general. You know when you know haha ( dah malas nak elaborate )
17. Funny
Because I'm not but I like to laugh to jokes
18. Not a smoker
Aa this one agak susah la kan sebab majoriti lelaki memang smoker, but who knows, masih ada
19. Suka workout
Cuz that means he has a good shape hehe
20. Sweet talker
I think this is one of my weakness when it comes to men. I'm a woman of words. I like words a lot. When someone talks sweetly, I can't help but feel attracted to him. I know action speaks louder than words, but, entahla,
21. Seorang yang menjaga solat
I shouldn't mention this cuz it's essential but, yeah
22. Not an ustadh
Hmm maybe I don't want someone too Islamic ? Haha weird but k
23. Someone who is willing to have small talk with me before we go to sleep every day.
Like how's your day, what are your plans for tomorrow,what you wanna eat, what's your childhood dreams etc
24. Someone who trusts me enough to not keep a secret from me
Please don't keep it to yourself
25. Not a gamer
I can tolerate if he's into sports, but sorry, I don't think I can with a gamer
26. Not really sociable
Hmm yea, someone who only has a small group of friends. No particular reason, just because
27. Not hot-tempered
Even if you are, I hope you're not physically hot-tempered (just verbal please)
28. Rambut handsome
Ini mengada but yeah hahaha
29. Fashionably simple
I reallly hope he's not someone who likes to wear kemeja or any clothes which need to iron. No please no.
30. Matang
I don't mind the age as long as he's more mature than me.
31. Someone who respects time
You don't need to be a Japanese to be this.
32. Rajin buat kerja rumah
Cuz I can't bare doing this all alone babe
33. Someone who likes to smile
Saje
34. Someone who never has a girlfriend
Taktaulah wujud ke lelaki yang good looking tapi tak pernah ada girlfriend. Hmm. I wanna be his only baby he ever has TT Mengade nye !
Haih. Rasa segan and mengade and malu nak post this list. Tapi lantakla. Bukannye ada orang baca pun hehe.
Okay ni saje tambah. My recent Korean drama is Crash Landing on You, and while everyone is crushing over Hyun Bin ( me as well lah), I kinda feel I'm more attracted to the other guy. His character seems more realistic, natural, and cute. Haha kbye.
Love,
1. Has a soothing voice
Ok firstly, the list is not in particular order, but only number 1 is my top preference. Of course muka is the first thing we will judge right, tapi the voice, aaa kalau suara dia hensem aku cair wei. Tapi serious la susah nak explain soothing voice tu macam mana. Ok one name crossed my mind. Kalau korang kenal Youtuber PrinceMeed, ( I don't follow him sebab videos dia more than 30 mins), haa suara dia hensem. And most Korean actors punya suara pun handsome jugak. Bukan garau tau, tapi entahla. Deep but not too deep macam Mr. Bean? Haha. Oh and yaa hahaha Uncle K (my psychologist) punya suara soothing gilaaa. Boleh bayangkan tak, aku selalu tak ingat apa benda dia cakap but I can listen to his voice all day do. Haha geli pulak sebab Uncle K is the same age as abah wahaha.
2. Height more than 175 cm.
I once asked my little bro (Faris) what's his ciri-ciri abang ipar and he only gave me one :-Someone who is taller than him. And do you know what his height is ? 178cm! Hahaha. I found it almost impossible to find a man that tall sebab Malaysian men mostly not that tall huhu. I'm 167cm and considered as one of the tall women in Malaysia. Hence, :D
3. Food lover and health conscious at the same time.
Because I can talk about food and diet all my life.
4. Loves her mom more than he loves me.
But not to an extend he would abandon me lah. I want him to call her mom at least once a day because although he is my husband, his syurga is still bawah telapak kaki his mom.
5. Pandai ambil hati orang tua
Specifically my parents lah. I hope he can love them as much as I do.
6. Love cats.
Because I've been living with cats with all my life and I hope to have at least 2 cats in my house when I got married too.
7. Can be my imam solat.
At least during Maghrib every day. But I secretly want him to be my imam Solat Subuh hehe mampu ke awak?:p
8. Has memorized the Quran
Or at least someone who is currently memorizing the Quran. This would be a bonus lah cuz I myself am on this journey and it would be nice to have a spouse who is on the same journey too
9. Good listener
To me this is a general trait. Hard to describe this but you will know when you talk to that person
10. Gaji 10k/month
Okays, so, for this one, is actually my abah punya ciri-ciri menantu. He specifically mentioned RM10k per month but I'm not sure whether he's joking (but looks like he's not). Haha.
11. Loves to hug.
Because I loveee hugging. Actually my family is not a hugger. I started liking to hug when my friends do it everyday when we see each other back in school. And I love it since.
12. Pandai main piano
Ni sajeje sebab I'm currently rekindling my love for piano and I think I found my melody. Wah gitu.
13. Willing to dance with me.
Selalu berangan sebenarnya ada dance partner walaupun aku sendiri tak pandai menari.
14. Loves to learn foreign languages
Kalau specific, preferably Japanese sebab I'm learning that, but if he speaks French well, j'adore too.
15. Not a fussy eater.
I hope him to be a flexible eater. Someone who can eat homecooked food, makan kat warung, restoran, senang cite, tak kesah kat mana2. Ada tau orang yang tak nak makan luar langsung.Hari-hari kene masak. Pastu ada jugak yang wajib makan nasi ayam hari2. I don't think I can live with that..sorry.
16. Generous
This is also general. You know when you know haha ( dah malas nak elaborate )
17. Funny
Because I'm not but I like to laugh to jokes
18. Not a smoker
Aa this one agak susah la kan sebab majoriti lelaki memang smoker, but who knows, masih ada
19. Suka workout
Cuz that means he has a good shape hehe
20. Sweet talker
I think this is one of my weakness when it comes to men. I'm a woman of words. I like words a lot. When someone talks sweetly, I can't help but feel attracted to him. I know action speaks louder than words, but, entahla,
21. Seorang yang menjaga solat
I shouldn't mention this cuz it's essential but, yeah
22. Not an ustadh
Hmm maybe I don't want someone too Islamic ? Haha weird but k
23. Someone who is willing to have small talk with me before we go to sleep every day.
Like how's your day, what are your plans for tomorrow,what you wanna eat, what's your childhood dreams etc
24. Someone who trusts me enough to not keep a secret from me
Please don't keep it to yourself
25. Not a gamer
I can tolerate if he's into sports, but sorry, I don't think I can with a gamer
26. Not really sociable
Hmm yea, someone who only has a small group of friends. No particular reason, just because
27. Not hot-tempered
Even if you are, I hope you're not physically hot-tempered (just verbal please)
28. Rambut handsome
Ini mengada but yeah hahaha
29. Fashionably simple
I reallly hope he's not someone who likes to wear kemeja or any clothes which need to iron. No please no.
30. Matang
I don't mind the age as long as he's more mature than me.
31. Someone who respects time
You don't need to be a Japanese to be this.
32. Rajin buat kerja rumah
Cuz I can't bare doing this all alone babe
33. Someone who likes to smile
Saje
34. Someone who never has a girlfriend
Taktaulah wujud ke lelaki yang good looking tapi tak pernah ada girlfriend. Hmm. I wanna be his only baby he ever has TT Mengade nye !
Haih. Rasa segan and mengade and malu nak post this list. Tapi lantakla. Bukannye ada orang baca pun hehe.
Okay ni saje tambah. My recent Korean drama is Crash Landing on You, and while everyone is crushing over Hyun Bin ( me as well lah), I kinda feel I'm more attracted to the other guy. His character seems more realistic, natural, and cute. Haha kbye.
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| Why him over Hyun Bin ? Why? |
Love,
Bie
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